Freyja and Male Beauty

This came up elseweb, but I realized as soon as I wrote it that I should share it here as well:

One of the things that Freyja has people do is stand in front of a mirror, naked, and compliment themselves out loud. The people who are assigned this are generally the people who find that a very difficult prospect.

They’re also almost always female (or at least assigned-female, having a vagina and breasts, etc.)

That’s understandable. We tend to think that, as a Goddess of Beauty, Freyja represents that which IS beautiful, and being a Goddess, She must represent female beauty most of all, no?

But what makes Freyja a Goddess of Beauty is not just that She seems beautiful to us, but far more importantly, that She sees beauty in us.

The story which illustrates this the best, is, I believe, the story of Freyja acquiring Her necklace Brisingamen by spending one night with each of the four Brising brothers, dwarves understood to be ugly, perhaps even deformed. When I run the Freyja Intensive, we go through this story as a guided meditation from the perspective of the youngest brother.

Now, superficial retellings say that She slept with Them because She coveted the necklace so intensely that She would do absolutely anything to have it, even compromise Herself. But I do not believe for one second that She was in any way compromised by sleeping with the four brothers. I believe that what She gave Them was exactly what She intended for Them to have all along and exactly what They needed, though They could not have realized the depth of Their own need before She confronted Them with it.

It’s often implied that no matter how beautiful the necklace was, what Freyja gave for it was far more valuable. With that I may agree, simply because I believe that what Freyja actually gave the brothers is beyond value, but it was not Her honor, chastity, or any other virtue grounded in constrained sexuality that She gave up. No, the service of Freyja’s sexuality is valuable indeed, but what She gave the four brothers reaches beyond sex itself.

I believe what She offered the four brothers was the chance to understand Their own beauty, and Beauty itself on new terms, by seeing Themselves finally through Her eyes.

I believe this is something Freyja offers everyone, but we often overlook that She offers this to men.

I know some of my readers are Freyjasmen. Do any of you have anything you could share with me – with us – regarding Freyja’s gifts to men regarding self awareness, self value, and beauty?


About EmberVoices

Ember Cooke has been a member of Hrafnar and Seidhjallr for more than a decade, where she trained to be a Seidhkona, Galdrakona, and Gythia. She founded the Vanic Conspiracy and made ordination vows to the Vanir and her congregation in the summer of 2013. She has contributed to several publications on Heathen and Northern Pagan subjects and regularly presents rituals and workshops at festivals. Her personal practice is more diverse, as the Vanir have lead her into cross-training and service for the wider Pagan community. This has including medium and servitor training in American Umbanda, clergy training with the Fellowship of the Spiral Path, and jail ministry for local counties. She holds a BA with honors in Religious Studies from Santa Clara University. Ember has lived all her life in the south San Francisco Bay Area, and is intimately bound to the valley of her birth.
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3 Responses to Freyja and Male Beauty

  1. sonyjalerulv says:

    You raises very good points. This is pretty much how I see that story too.

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  2. Dagny says:

    I’d love to hear what some Freyjasmen have to say about this.

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  3. Boneweaver (aka pjvj) says:

    We just worked this story at our witchcamp this summer and Freyja didn’t “give” anything in our telling, She bartered a fair trade, skill for skill. The duergar got loved in a manner unknown to them prior and Freyja realized the power of Brisingamen lie within Her and always had. <— long way of seconding your post.

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